Anger Management

By WEEK Producer

July 13, 2010 Updated Jul 13, 2010 at 2:46 PM CDT

Anger: Is your temper getting the best of you?

Are some people just born angry or is it a behavior that is learned.
Dr. Joy Miller is here and we will explore some recent research related to anger and a behavior that you can't afford to ignore.

Is anger something that is genetic or is it a behavioral disorder?

Mental health professionals typically classify anger is a normal feeling, but when the actions are severe or it turns outward it is then classified as a disorder that is learned or behavioral.

Anger is usually accompanied with feelings of depression, shame, guilt, anxiety or bipolar disorder. Many times anger is classified as Intermittent Explosive disorder when anger is against people or property out of proportion.

Estimated that 1/20 have Intermittent Explosive disorder (mostly men) and is treated with talk therapy and some anti-depressants. Many researchers believe that anger is correlated with impulsive control disorder.

What if you anger is out of check, and things escalate? What times can YOU do to calm yourself down?

Count. The old adage was correct. Breathe, and count and allow yourself to calm down. Take deep breathes and try to calm down.

Reframe the situation into a way that is not so hurtful.

Become aware of what makes you mad. Learn to identify your triggers and learn ways to calm yourself down when you realize you are being triggered.

Talk to yourself in a new way. Change the message so you are not the victim.

Try not to think of past affronts or past injustices and focus on how to calm yourself down.

Never use alcohol. Drinking or drugging when you are mad will only make things worse.

Will this matter tomorrow? Slow down and decide if this will matter to you tomorrow or next week.

Many times people lose their temper with their significant other. What are some tips to keep your anger in check?

Call a "time out" if things start to get out of hand. Leave the situation for 30 minutes and come back to discuss.

Leave the room and get some distance

Come back and try to acknowledge what you think the other person was saying.

Try to compromise or negotiate and look for win-win.

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