Ask Dr. Joy: 6 friends you need to have

By WEEK Producer

October 23, 2013 Updated Oct 23, 2013 at 6:58 PM CDT

Friends…women need them for support, to nurture, to encourage and for playful times.

Not all friendships are the same. Women serve different roles at different times in our lives but research would show that there are various “types” of friendships that are essential to a well-rounded circle of companions.

What are those circles & descriptions?

• The “bouncer” -- this is the person you can bounce things off of and they are never going to say they have the “right” answer. They are the ones who help you work things out for yourself and will be the opening to ask you questions like “how do you feel about that?” or “how else could you look at that?”

• The touchstone -- this is the friend that knows you better than anyone else. They are the one who knows your past & your present and will be honest with you. They know when you need a hug, a smile, or some encouragement, and they are the ones who knows the real you.

• The complimenter -- this is the person who knows how to cheer you up, is your cheerleader and makes you feel good when you are down. They are your safety net to give you a safe place to feel good about yourself.

• Tell it like it is -- you want the truth and the real honest answer to any situation, well, this is the no-nonsense person to put you on track. They are forthright in answering your question and making you feel good is not their goal. This friend will tell you when you are doing something stupid, and tell you when you are really doing things right.

• The passive friend -- this is the listener who will just be there, let you talk, and just quietly listens without judgment or criticism. These friends are great for letting you get something off your chest and for sorting out things through your own means.

• Newbies -- these are the friends that bring some new interests and shared companionship into your life. They bring excitement, novelty, and exploration. Everyone needs a newbie to bring out hidden sides of your personality

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