Therapist's guide to keep your kids safe

By WEEK Reporter

June 3, 2014 Updated Jun 4, 2014 at 9:11 AM CDT

PEORIA, Ill. -- Inappropriate relationships can happen anywhere. This time it happened in a school, a place where kids should be safe.

Dr. Joy Miller said there are two key things parents can do to keep their children safe.

First, talk to them about boundaries and make them understand that even trusted adults can cross the line.

"If you don't talk about it, that's the biggest problem. Many times parents are scared to even mention the subject, and that just opens up the room for lots of problems," said psychotherapist, Dr. Joy Miller.

Second, you should monitor what they do.

"You have to many times do the things you don't want to do -- get on Facebook, go to their rooms, listen to their friends. When you drive in the car with other children listen to what they're saying. You're going to hear clues," Dr. Miller said. "People talk, kids talk."

Some parents see this as an invasion of privacy but Dr. Miller said there is a fine line between invading their privacy and doing your job as a parent.

"In today's world many parents are letting their kids go rogue. They're not checking a lot of things. I think we've gone from helicopter parents to parents who just kind of move to the side and think their teens will be okay," said Dr. Miller.

And she adds many times parents don't look because they are afraid of what they'll find. But that doesn't mean it isn't happening.

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